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MORNING IS THAT SPECIAL PLACE 

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MORNING rises to a dawn of a new day;



your spirit canvassing for an 

unconscious state of ease, 

of solitude,

a SOLACE where no noise can impede;

but then-

SUNLIGHT YAWNS a gentle warmth 

thru its BLEND of RAYS-

Chirping birds prelude the opening 

curtains of your mind-  

it’s the REALITY OF YOUR DREAM

which AWAKENS into  

soft imageries, 

passionately spewed over…  

 into pastelly highlights,

 a frolic of

splattered dewfall, 

prisms beaming upon the 

window panes of morning’s magic.

Ahhhh!

You then drift into a CONSCIOUSNESS 

Of perfect moments.

NATURE is beautiful with boundless 

abstracts of still life paintings.

©David Dean/AOC

 
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Posted by on 04/10 in reflections

 

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Believe In Yourself!

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LEADERSHIP TRANSITIONS

Don’t Let Promotion Anxiety Derail Your Career

Gill Corkindale

Many of us dream about the moment when we get that longed-for promotion. Imagine that it’s yours: a great step up the career ladder, huge responsibility, a bigger team and a whopping pay rise.

It all happens so quickly: your predecessor gives you a fast handover, you meet your new team and peers, and your boss sets your objectives for the year. After a whirlwind few days, you walk into your new corner office (if you are really lucky), sit behind your new desk and savour your success.

But what happens next? For anyone who has been in this situation, the answer is not straightforward. Because from this moment on, whatever happens is your responsibility. You are the boss. You have to take the difficult decisions, make the judgment calls and perhaps even define your own role. And there will be the massive unspoken expectation — from your team, your peers, and your boss — that you will know exactly what to do.

A few unshakeably confident executives launch straight into action, but for most new leaders, this is a moment of unspeakable anxiety and uncertainty. Ironically, the greatest triumph of their careers is also defined by loneliness. And for some, that can be psychologically very disturbing.

Take Antony, 35, newly promoted to the board after his stellar success as marketing director of a FTSE 250 company. He had risen inexorably through the ranks and was tipped by the chairman to be the next CEO. After a busy few days, he was due to attend his first main board meeting. As he walked towards the boardroom, he felt a peculiar sense of detachment from the scene around him. He was aware of familiar faces greeting and congratulating him, but for some reason, he couldn’t hear what they were saying — it was as if a glass window was separating him from them. He was watching them speak but couldn’t hear the words they were saying

Ten minutes later, as they sat around the table, he began to feel dizzy. His heart was pounding and he broke into a sweat. Then he became aware that the room had fallen silent and that everyone was looking at him. The chairman stared intently at him and repeated a question. Suddenly overwhelmed by anxiety, he rose up, pushed away his chair and dashed to the door. Only when he felt the cool air on his face outside the building did he feel the sense of panic subside.

Back in the boardroom, the chairman asked what had just happened. The Antony they’d known until this point — a talented leader with a strong track record, a winning personality, and a cool head in a crisis — had just bolted from the room after being asked a simple factual question. This is not what they had expected on his first day as a board member.

A day or so later, Antony felt able to explain what had happened to a colleague. While he’d felt very confident at the outset, as he approached the boardroom he began to panic, sensing that everyone expected that he knew what to do, what to say and what to expect. Fearing that he wouldn’t be able to control the panic, he left the room as quickly as he could. He tried to figure out why he had acted that way. Later that day it clicked. The last time he had felt such panic was after the death of his father 15 years before: he had not known what to do then, but he had been confronted with a similar same sense of expectation from his family. Suppressing his own grief, he had acted then as though he knew what to do, although inside he was panicking.

It was clear that his new role had provoked a similar degree of anxiety that had stirred up deep and unresolved feelings from his past. Fortunately, Antony recovered his equanimity and was successful in his new role. Yet some executives fall victim to an overwhelming anxiety that derails them at exactly the moment when their careers should be soaring.

So what can be done? From my conversations with leaders in this situation and from my own experience, I suggest you consider some of the following questions:

  • Where is your support? Do you have a strong ally, mentor or coach to lean on during the first few months of your new role?
  • What is your plan for the first few months?
  • What are your priorities for your new role?
  • What do you need to achieve in the first week, month, or quarter? Are your priorities focused on tasks, targets, people, structure, culture, mood or vision?
  • What kind of personal impression do you want to make from the outset?
  • What are your values and what is your leadership style?
  • What is in your control and what is outside your control?
  • How will you reconcile yourself with these?
  • What kind of balance do you need to strike between observing, listening and questioning and communicating, making decisions and taking action?
  • Whom do you need to influence most? Boss, stakeholders, team or peers?
  • And what kind of network do you have?
  • Do you really understand the culture and politics of the organisation? If not, how can you find out and who will guide you?
  • Who will give you honest and constructive feedback about your performance and help you understand others’ perceptions of you?
  • How much time will you set aside for yourself to gain perspective, and develop your strategy and vision?
  • What is your contribution across the organisation?
  • How can you support your peers, your boss and other teams to achieve their objectives?

These are my thoughts on this subject — as always, I welcome your ideas and contributions. Have you ever found yourself in an anxiety-inducing situation similar to the one described above? If so, what did you do? And what would you recommend others do in the face of such circumstances?

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A PROVERBIAL “Yield”

A PROVERBIAL “Yield”

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Rice is one of the most labor-intensive crops that is grown because of the water usage. Rice plants take around 120 days to grow from seeds to mature plants. Farmers then have to flood the rice fields because rice has better growth and produces higher yields when grown in flooded soils... source

Rice, comprised of bountiful small grains has traditionally made big impressions at festivities that serve rice in many variations, as a meal, and affairs that serenade well wishes upon brides and grooms.

Is The Throwing Of Rice On A Bride And Groom A Blessed Proverb?

The prime factor for plentiful yields of rice is the input of hard labor.

Considering the hard work it takes to grow and harvest rice, the same tenacity is needed for a marriage to endure.

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Affärsdöden.. (Stockholm) from our friend Nicki

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Have You Heard Of This Most Terrifying Bed And Breakfast?

Have You Heard Of This Most Terrifying Bed And Breakfast?

stock On Earth, and, at Sea: “The Frying Pan Tower” Coast Guard Light Station The Frying Pan Tower is a Coast Guard Light Station located 34 miles off the coast (seaward) of (Cape Fear) North Carolina that is being restored with the assistance of people like you!

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view: Frying Pan Tower – Light Station – Southport NCimage source The Frying Pan Tower is located out of sight of land in 50 ft. of clear blue Atlantic waters (lat & lon 33°29′N 77°35′W).Closeup view: Frying Pan Tower – Light Station – Southport NC
It may not boast a spa, fancy dining or swimming pool, but this one-of-a-kind bed and breakfast in the Atlantic Ocean’s hurricane alley has everything guests need when they’re looking for solitude.Frying Pan Lighthouse: A unique B&B for the true adventurer … Guests decide what they want from the refrigerator, freezer and pantries, or from whatBest Restaurant with best View! – Picture of Frying Pan, Southport – TripAdvisorFrying Pan, Southport Picture: Best Restaurant with best View! – Check out TripAdvisor members’ 1,642 candid photos and videos of Frying PanDespite its remote location, the bed and breakfast has some of the comforts of home, including hot showers, electricity, wifi and a kitchen with stainless steel appliances.Guests’ QuartersCaptain’s Quarters A visit to the Frying Pan Tower is an unforgettable experience and a way to truly get away from it all while enjoying the loneliness and endless views of the sea. With no other structure or land in sight, guests feel like they’re in the middle of nowhere as they gaze at the open water and take in spectacular sunrises and sunsets, and stunning displays as stars glitter in the night sky. From $500 a person for two nights (the cost doesn’t include helicopter or boat transfers), there are eight bedrooms (five twin beds and three queen beds) and the accommodation is rustic and basic. Richard Neal, a software engineer from Charlotte, purchased the surplus station when it was auctioned by the US Coast Guard in 2010. In calmer times, guests can admire 360-degree views from a light tower or lower themselves to the ocean’s surface, where they can dive with sharks and turtles, or fish for lobster, black sea bass in waters warmed by the Gulf Stream. With the Gulf Stream close by, we often are pleasantly warm when it’s still cold onshore and mild when it’s too hot to walk on the sand at the beach so don’t let a great weekend go to waste, come be part of history! https://youtu.be/WE31soltwVUDespite its remote location, the bed and breakfast has some of the comforts of home, including hot showers, electricity, wifi and a kitchen with stainless steel appliances.Guests’ QuartersCaptain’s Quarters A visit to the Frying Pan Tower is an unforgettable experience and a way to truly get away from it all while enjoying the loneliness and endless views of the sea. With no other structure or land in sight, guests feel like they’re in the middle of nowhere as they gaze at the open water and take in spectacular sunrises and sunsets, and stunning displays as stars glitter in the night sky. From $500 a person for two nights (the cost doesn’t include helicopter or boat transfers), there are eight bedrooms (five twin beds and three queen beds) and the accommodation is rustic and basic. Richard Neal, a software engineer from Charlotte, purchased the surplus station when it was auctioned by the US Coast Guard in 2010. In calmer times, guests can admire 360-degree views from a light tower or lower themselves to the ocean’s surface, where they can dive with sharks and turtles, or fish for lobster, black sea bass in waters warmed by the Gulf Stream. With the Gulf Stream close by, we often are pleasantly warm when it’s still cold onshore and mild when it’s too hot to walk on the sand at the beach so don’t let a great weekend go to waste, come be part of history! https://youtu.be/WE31soltwVU
 

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When Morning Dreams Are Filled With Imagination

When Morning Dreams Are Filled With Imagination
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When you are half asleep, it means you are not fully awake. It also means you are still in your comfort zone, a state of splendor and ecstasy. On this realm of relaxation, you might find yourself wearing pajamas, a gown or a nightie. Yes in this frame of mind, you can dream BIG and venture anywhere!…

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Just to fill your tummy with a plate of huge pancakes, you might find your way through a forest where an enchanted, happy tree directs you into the porous entries of his rooted trunk. When inside, the enchanted tree transforms into an exciting treehouse restaurant.

There you see lots of patrons. Oh, and there is an aroma of hot pancakes. They smell so good! It is so entertaining to watch jolly cooks batter and platter the fruited herb filled pancakes. Rhythmically they run to and fro mixing, flipping and serving them hot in tall stacks.

When a waitress walks over with a huge stack, you assume they are for you. With your arms stretched out reaching for the pancakes, you follow her. But then your eyes meet the patron who ordered that stack of pancakes. He gives you a daring look, to “Back off”!

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Some dreams are so connected that when one realm closes, the door to another opens up. You could find yourself peering upon a castle and then suddenly your inside.

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Breakfast is just what your heart desires. You are now inside of a castle restaurant with big bottles of syrups scattered about the tables. There seems to be so many flavors… Apricot, maple, assorted berry flavors and peach. It’s so weird, but everyone is dressed in sleepwear and eating huge pancakes. No problem, because you too are in your sleepwear. And, you are a perfect blend with this crowd because just like you, everyone appears to be half asleep or in their own world.

As soon as you sit down, a waitress comes over takes your order for pancakes. After ten minutes of anxiously waiting, the waitress serves you one, big… GIANT buttery, cinnamon-covered pancake in a plate. But, each time you reach for the tasty bread of love, the pancake, like a mirage, just keeps disappearing.

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The most unfortunate place to wander while not fully awake is to a haunted mansion.

It looks eerie on the outside but you believe you are smelling Buttermilk pancakes. So, you take your chances and head inside. The interior is dark and dreary, and there is no one in sight. But the kitchen looks as though “breakfast” is about to happen, because all about are the fixn’s for a huge breakfast. You call out “hello, hello! Is there anyone home”? You repeat this callout three, four and five times… and still you get no answer.

Who could imagine the many bottles of syrups, buckets of dripping butter and a huge pot of coffee percolating and yet, there is not a soul in sight? What is also strange is a rectangled table with plates and cups has been neatly set. But then you hear hissing, sizzling sounds.

Slowly, you follow the sounds into the cooking area of the kitchen. And there upon a grill, giant Buttermilk pancakes are being cooked. You don’t know who is doing the cooking, because, still, there is no one in sight.

Breakfast will be a waste if the pancakes burn. So you take on the job to rescue the pancakes and struggle to flip them. Incredible! You handle the huge pancakes and put them into a delicious stack on a plate. But then suddenly, out of nowhere, a transparent figure of a young lady appeared and grabbed the plate of pancakes and began eating them.

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(You are awakened by the musical sounds from your phone device. It is 7a.m.)

(you pickup and answer) Hello
(It is your cousin Allen)

Hi Allen!”

“Trace!” (he says) “–you won’t believe this, but I had the most crazy dream about you.

(he chuckles and continues) I dreamt you were stealing food from restaurants. Everything in the dream seemed so real.”

(there is a long pause and then he continues) “I hope everything is okay with you, Trace. How about us going out for a pancake breakfast?”

(there is a long span of dead silence. You observe that your feet and sleepwear are filthy dirty)

Story originally posted on: AmericaOnCoffee ©2018 Doro Dancer (AmericaOnCoffee/AOC)

 

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Madame Tutli-Putli’s Train Journey Comes to an Unsuspecting Nightmarish End. Was It A Metaphysical Dream Afterall? (part 2 of 2 )

Madame Tutli-Putli’s Train Journey Comes to an  Unsuspecting Nightmarish End. Was It A Metaphysical Dream Afterall?  (part 2 of 2 )

Madame Tutli-Putli continues her travel on a night night but when things become so eerie she needs a way out…

Madame Tutli-Putli is a 2007 stop motion-animated short film by Montrealfilmmakers Chris Lavis and Maciek Szczerbowski, collectively known as Clyde Henry Productions, and produced by the National Film Board of Canada(NFB). It is available on the Cinema16: World Short Films DVD and from the NFB. source

 
 
 
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